The experience of love is an inner state. When this is present, you are happy, alive, and free. You feel good about yourself and good about life. As you bring the experience of love into your life, life works effortlessly and great things happen.

The opposite of love is fear and upset. When this is present, you lose down inside. You lose your creativity and your ability to see clearly. You get tunnel vision and you interact in a way that almost always makes your situation worse.

Whether you live in a state of love or a state of upset depends, not on your circumstances, but on how you relate to your circumstances. A good way to see this is to look at upsets.

Upsets seem to be caused by what happens but they're not. Upsets are caused by your fighting and resisting what happens. To see this in your life, select a recent upset. Now notice what would happen if somehow you were at peace with what happened. There would be no upset.

There would be no upset because upsets aren't caused by what happened. Upsets are caused by fighting and resisting what happened. The moment you take away the fighting and resisting, the upset disappears.

To live the experience of love, and to create a life that works, you need to stop fighting and resisting. You do this through a process called letting go.

Letting go is the inner action that releases the fear and upset. The moment you let go, everything seems to change. With the fear and upset gone, you see your situation very differently. You become creative and discover solutions that you could never have seen before.

To let go, you need to do the opposite of fighting and resisting. You need to let go of your demands and expectations for how life should be and make peace with the way life is.

Find what you are resisting. Then give it full permission to be there. If you have a fear of losing a relationship, be willing to be it. If you are resisting the way someone is, then give the person full permission to be that way.

Be willing for anything. Set yourself free inside. Then take whatever action you need to have your life be great.

Keep in mind that letting go is a state of mind and has nothing to do with your actions. Letting go is the process that removes the fear and upset so you can see what action you need to take.

In your heart, you can be willing to lose someone, but in your action, do everything you can to make sure the person feels so loved that he or she would never want to leave.

To make letting go a little easier, there are several steps you can take. The first is trusting. Trust that no matter what happens, you will be okay. When you konw that you will be okay, letting go becomes relatively easy.

Trusting is also telling the truth. You really will be okay no matter what happens. Life is only threatening when you resist. So stop resisting and trust. Trust that no matter what happens, you will be okay.

The second step in the process of letting go is to be willing to feel your hurt. Be willing to feel all the hurts and the feelings of being not okay that your circumstances reactivate. Be willing to feel the hurt of being worthless of not "good enough".

The avoidance of this hurt is what makes you resist. Once you are willing to feel this hurt, the need to resist disappears. You can then let go.

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This is what happens in life. The more you are able to let go and flow with life, the more life takes care of itself. You may not always get what you want, but you can always be free inside. You can restore both your peace of mind and your effectiveness. You can create a life that works.

我看不出文章文笔好在哪里，但是说的在理，就抄下来给自己解闷吧，有点车轱辘话太墨迹了，不过也像一份详细的使用说明，比那些精辟的妙语更容易效仿。

看的一篇小酸文，大概讲，有些人是因为reason接近你，有些陪你度过生命中某season，而真爱是陪伴你lifetime的！

昨天msn跟朋友讨论，分手之后能不能做朋友。反正从我个人情况看，我不喜欢的人分了基本就不再联系，是人家不喜欢我的分了之后都和我关系还不错。看来男的比较心软，我还是比较狠心的！这种事情，我想不好一刀切的下结论。两人本来就是好友，都孤单的久了那么相熟就想在一起，相处了之后发现是不合适的，继续做朋友反而更加轻松自在舒服，何必因为曾经在一起而伤害原来的友谊呢，能找到一个真心朋友能倾听你说话有共同语言也是很不容易的！老话说的好，多个朋友多条路么！这些人，陪我度过了快乐的season，我感谢他们！而且相爱的尝试也是一种寻找真爱的过程吧，不试试去接近去了解怎么知道哪个是陪伴你lifetime的人啊！

今天在食堂偶遇宁宁，两个女人开心的一起吃饭互诉思念之情。看得那篇文章就是跟她借的书上面的啦！我觉得我们这次会面还真是缘分！！之前说了好几次要一起吃饭，都没凑好时间。今天两个人都是磨蹭来磨蹭去刚好在同一时间磨到食堂打饭时候有刚巧遇到了！而且明天我就要去深圳了，之前还一直想着，啊，这次又见不到她了……两人一起回忆了铜陵那些伙伴，我发现我回来之后只偶遇过mm们，男孩子我一个都没再学校里偶遇过...虽然我们相处的时间不长，但是我很幸运我们相处得很好！我也感谢你们！

今天小马生日。祝你生日快乐，身体健康！还有我其他的姐妹们！我很感激在大学里能够遇到你们这些知心姐妹，和你们相处我学会了很多东西，至少迄今为止你们一直陪伴我，帮我度过困难和孤独，带给我温暖和愉快！

因为reason接近我的，我原谅他们，也谢谢他们不管出于任何目的为我的付出。我的真爱，还没出现，我很期待！陪我度过现在这段season的朋友，好像也不是太多，因为我还不是一个特别好相处的人吧，我珍惜你们，感谢你们~~~~